How to differentiate Between Attraction, Liking, and Love!?

I'm no love-scientist, but this is what I've picked on the way...


These three emotions can be confused with each other, they might even overlap each other at some points but are never the same thing: 



                                                                                ATTRACTION:
It's about that eyebrow-raise, a little longer than necessary stare, that attention grabber thing. it can vary for different people- looks for some, confidence for others, while thoughts to others. 
If it lasts it becomes - Liking, which can further hike up to that love standard.
It has major parts to do with face value and less of, to do with habits. 
If a person likes the habits too, congrats the attraction has elevated to the next level.  

"It can be thought of as a starting line, a person could turn back after a while or trace the complete path." 



LIKE:

A person can like a lot of things, sometimes the most random things about another person. Its intensity is surely less than love. If there is an acute fondness for someone, one can infatuate about them. 
Now, it may or may not transition to love. 

"You can like a person for how they look, how they behave, how they are, their nature, etc. 
But love is a combination of, liking all of the above even the parts not liked much by others, and not wanting to alter much."     
                                         


LOVE:
Oo... so it is a strong emotion, magnetism towards a particular person, in the way you tend to overlook their shortcomings, flaws, faults, etc. 

When you hear the ocean sing and the birds talk, and that almost giddy feeling rises from your belly. Yep. That's Love. There's no talking out of it. 
It can be irrational and impractical (it ought to be its love after all). 
It can happen anywhere at any time but it can flourish only where there is mutual respect. 
You see, respect is a prerequisite for love to grow and stay. 
The toughest part is not to fall in love, but to stay in it. The factor that decides how far two people can last together is not the good traits but the bad ones. Through thick and thin. 

"We all want that fairy- love tale but only a few of us tread that path, invest those efforts to actually realize it." 

Blaming it all on the "it's complicated", or it won't work. 
Yes, feelings are never straightforward, then there are so many things: bro zone, friendzone, etc. It is okay to get whirled up and perplexed and anxious. 
In times like these trust whatever your belly/gut says. It does, just be attentive enough to listen. 
Love, unlike attraction, requires- patience, effort, and time. 
Love should never be confused with obsession. A person can only be obsessed with things and not people. We can never obtain a person. And if anyone is obsessed with someone it certainly is not healthy, to say the least. 
Even if one gets that person, it won't do any good as he/she would go to the extent to change for them and not for their own selves. Unhealthy. 
Love is never about changing the other person, it is always about growth and acceptance. Together. 

Before anything else, ask yourself, what it is, always before getting into something serious. It will surely un-complicate, the things. 

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