Better Life

Writing after so long for a truly inspired post, something which has been so close to my heart. To understand what it is to be a woman.  There are so many things I feel we know exist but we turn a blind eye towards them. Blaming it on - is how things have been going. If not doing something, we should at least stop being a part of it. Patriarchy, dominance, inequality, unequal women to men ratio, it's a long list.  Sometimes I feel some of the traditions laid out in the society are formed just to keep women in their place.  Photo by  Becca Tapert  on  Unsplash Questions: Why are women of color, sexuality & different sizes shamed for presenting themselves as they are ? Why is there a need to fight for equality? Why can't we just accept compliments without adding a flaw to them with the fear of appearing arrogant and not modest?  So many metoo cases, inside the clan too, there is so much jealousy and strife.  Women have to fight, understand, make terms wi

Heading for my yoga class after a tiring day I was quite happy. I had joined it recently. A few days had gone by but all I could see was: a big hall with pleasant still paintings, mostly of Krishna and peacocks and middle-aged auntie-uncles, trying to reach out for their toes. I opened then closed my mouth in an effort to ask sir if my age group people attended their class? Something stopped me. I was just happy to see someone ‘young(er)’. “Hi, I’m Trisha,” she said returning my grin. Only bigger. I introduced myself. On closer inspection, I saw that her eyes looked very tired and were a little baggy from the sides, at least that’s what I caught from her framed eyes. Hey, someone needed ‘calm’ more than I did. “I’m in 7th standard, what about you, what are you doing?” “I’m a software engineer in a company” I decided not to tell about the company name cause interrogation on that is the last thing I wanted. Peace, remember? “Oh, sounds great,” She said, along with whi

I'm no love-scientist, but this is what I've picked on the way... These three emotions can be confused with each other, they might even overlap each other at some points but are never the same thing:                                                                                   ATTRACTION: It's about that eyebrow-raise, a little longer than necessary stare, that attention grabber thing. i t can vary for different people- looks for some, confidence for others, while thoughts to others.  If it lasts it becomes -  Liking,  which can further hike up to that love standard. It has major parts to do with face value and less of, to do with habits.  If a person likes the habits too, congrats the attraction has elevated to the next level.   "It can be thought of as a starting line, a person could turn back after a while or trace the complete path."  LIKE: A person can like a lot of things, sometimes the most random things about another person. 

There are many incidents where one is at crossroads as to what should be done next. Next. Next- Career level, personal level, emotional level, this point hits us all at some point.  These moments are uncertain, unsure, and scary (at least for me). This has been happening a lot lately, mostly on the educational front, seeing others detangling their lives and making a go at it, made me take a look at my life. Whenever I ask those de-tangled ones, they are with, but one answer- you have a sea of opportunities, which BTW is absolutely correct. But it's hard to make choices and even harder to think about their end results. Just like that, my one dear friend approached me, there are a few conversations that can actually get you thinking. This was one of them:                                          ME: "You seem to be quite chilled, aren't you scared?" SHE: "Scared of what?" ME: "Life, the Next step!! Everybody seems to be so sorted."

Love is in the air was pretty much simmering the week before, yesterday it boiled. No, don’t take me wrong I’m not anti-love or anything, I’m just sharing my experience as a single this valentine’s day. I really hope it strikes a chord or two with other singles out there. Hear me out: I belong to the category of “by choice single” and do absolutely fine by myself, but some days it becomes a bumpy road to travel on. Living in a PG I’m surrounded by other girls who seem to be head over heels. Now, as much as I try to avoid this, I end up being surrounded by- tales, cards, and photographs of the lovebirds. This can really wreck with your mind, peer pressure can be felt in every field. Especially in the love week, it can do the following things to you, at least it did to me: 1.I considered making decisions which I could regret later. 2.I thought myself as a worthless person. (It was temporary). 3.I planned on eloping or staying in the bed all day. 4.I also grew a litt

 1. Individuality : This year talk about yourself, rather talk to yourself. Don’t underestimate the “ME- Time”. Go out on dates with yourself, look around and just breathe. This little habit will help you love yourself , which is so under-rated and under-practiced. 2. Learn a NEW skill: Save little bucks for yourself with which you can do almost anything- singing classes, swimming lessons, yoga, or marketing. Anything. It obviously adds another star to your CV but, other than that it also makes you feel good about yourself. 3. Set small goals: They say “To have big, huge dreams”, the thing that they forgot to add was that having big dreams can scare you and leave you unmotivated. This can be solved by breaking it down into small aims. For eg. If your dream is to become the next pop sensation and you are not sure whether it can be converted into a full-fledged career then, start slow; upload your videos on youtube, or sing in college fests, etc. This will lead to big